Q: I'm just over with my exams of class XII. I've been a mediocre student and no particular liking for any one field. Now that time has come that I decide, I'm confused which line to take? What are the factors that I should keep in mind before I decide about my career?
-Rasika
Ans: It's indeed thoughtful of you to ask about important factors to be kept in mind before making a choice of career. What you say being mediocre is what we find having IQ in an average range, which indicates that such individuals can do fairly well in more than one line of career. So your observation of not being particular of any one field of interest is justified. Keeping in mind your physical and mental capacities, the essentials like the courses available and affordable, time duration required to accomplish them should be primary points of screening while deciding about your career. These may seem very obvious but there are many people who repent having ignored these basic issues. There are some people who select the courses rather enthusiastically but are later bored if it is a long & time taking curriculum to accomplish. This then affects their grades. Some others select educational programs by browsing the Internet but later fight with family members over financial matters. Attending career-guidance seminars of various institutes may be useful but one has to be judicious about the reality and feasibility of the big claims made there.
You must also keep in mind following things before you decide:
- What nature of work you like (for eg, sedentary office job or more dynamic field work)
- What is your temperament like (for eg, you are privacy loving or social kind of person)
- What lifestyle you would enjoy (for eg, whether you love easy going & laid back life or happening life-style)
If you wish you can come over to my clinic and get an aptitude test done for yourself, which might be of some good help while you take any decision.
All the best!
Q: I'm an unfortunate girl who has been facing rejection from all sides in my life. The friends which I choose don't stay loyal to me, the teachers whom I like don't appreciate me, subjects I like always give me less marks, now I've started to believe I'm not good at anything. But I know I should not feel like this what should I do?
-ABC
Ans: Knowing that you should not be feeling so is like the battle half won but being able to implement it, is like winning it thoroughly! Many a times it happens that we are ourselves a little careless while we make friends. For instance, we make friends with classmates who are rank holders as it is considered wise to be in company of intelligent people. But, at the same time if we our selves are not a rank-holder in class and feel low or left alone (sometimes may be due our own comparison). It may be like they are more into books and we are more into sports, so the difference appears. This is only an example of how difference of interest can lead to other differences. In your case, such instances may have come sometimes and you later experience only you tried to patch-up others did not bother etc etc. So it will be better if you take longer to make friends. Judge whether you are compatible with them and then propose friendship. Again similar things happen in other matters too. Like we take tuitions for a subject considering it to be most important or difficult whereas it is necessary to study hard for all subjects. So sometimes we score less marks in subjects for which we devote lesser time and co-incidentally if your favourite teacher teaches that subject, you may feel let down.
What is important is that try to find out whether there is any other reason for the mishaps in life rather than feeling being rejected. Such a feeling makes you feel bitter which reflects back on your confidence, on other things you do in life and also on other people you meet, who care for you more than you care for yourself.
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